The Freedom To Be Authentic
Updated: Feb 11, 2022
I think one of the most important gifts we can give ourselves is the freedom to be our authentic self
In society we are programmed to believe that we should make more money, be prettier, dress and act a certain way, buy a bigger house, the list goes on. Our authentic selves get lost and hidden beneath all of the illusions that we are fed.
The freedom to be authentic is a process. It develops over time and does not come easily because of the challenges & many hidden lessons and layers one must go through. But, this process is profoundly rewarding and priceless.
𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐮𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐚𝐮𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟
Firstly, we have to 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝘃𝗲𝘀. When we do not like ourselves, it is like being around someone we don’t want to be around. Can you imagine spending all day, every day with someone you don’t like? When we do not like ourselves, we avoid looking at the choices we are making and live in a certain level of denial about what we need to make us happy.
When we do not like ourselves, we do not stand in our own truth, we take others word & truth to be our own, because we have stopped listening to our true wants/ needs & our hearts. The challenging part is that we may not even see or know that we don’t like ourselves in the first place. It takes courage & a lot of self inquiry and self awareness to look within and find out.
𝗔𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗳𝗹𝗮𝘄𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝗲𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺 𝗮𝘀 𝗴𝗶𝗳𝘁𝘀, 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗰𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝘀
When we are able to admit our flaws, instead of hiding them, these flaws can easily turn into our greatest strengths. For example, I struggled with addiction in my past and instead of trying to hide this, I am proud to have gone through the journey I did because it led me to my own self inquiry & healing journey.
It also gave me credibility in my career, working with women in addictions & mental health. I am able to really connect & come from an empathetic space with my clients because I have been there. They recognize this within me and feel safe to open up. My greatest flaw became one of my greatest strengths.
𝐀𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐩𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐚𝐩𝗽𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐡 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬
A major catalyst for suffering is the comparison to others and a large part of non acceptance of self is when one complains and believes they are a victim of their chosen path. They compare their life path to others and do not see that their path is uniquely and divinely theirs.
The comparison and judgment of ones path can lead a person down a inauthentic road, trying to be something or someone other than themselves. When a person is unhappy with themselves, the will to follow someone’s else’s life path can become enticing and attractive and may look like the answer. But this could lead a person on a detour through even more unfulfillment and confusion.
To fully live in authenticity and be true to yourself, it is essential to do the work within and uncover the parts that are inauthentic and ultimately blocking ones true potential.
When a person is able to transmute and transform their inner world/ inner obstacles, their true path will be revealed. The passion will be undeniable and will create a fire so extraordinary that it will ignite the way and fuel everything that one undertakes. Life will flow with much more ease because one is in alignment with their truth.
Being your authentic self means being uniquely who you were meant to be, and not trying to be someone else. Compromising our values, desires, passions, purpose and life’s mission is not what we came here for.
It takes courage, vulnerability and integrity to connect and really build that relationship with the true you. But hands down, there is nothing more rewarding and fulfilling then living in your 𝗧𝗥𝗨𝗧𝗛.