Learning to say "No".
Updated: Dec 4, 2020
Choosing to please others at the expense of your emotional well-being is a slippery slope. This can effect ones health, create a false identity, build resentment towards others, create mental fatigue and personal dissatisfaction.
How can you truly help others if you can’t take care of yourself and your own needs first?
True self care is being able to say “No” without excuses or feeling guilty.
True self love and respect is setting boundaries with others when it is not serving you.
🔹Where in your life do you find it hard to say no? At work? In your personal life? Maybe both?
🔹Are there certain people that you find it hard to say no to? Your family? Your partner? Your boss? Your friends? Is it one particular person or maybe it’s all people?
🔹Notice if this is a pattern that you have held onto since childhood...
Most will see that this pattern stems from childhood and has continued into their adult life.
Not being able to say no and set boundaries is a coping mechanism and a learned belief that is attached to ones self esteem and identity. The good news is that It can be addressed and healed with the proper tools and awareness.
Being able to stand strong in your authenticity, whatever that may look like in the moment, is the clearest path to freedom. Feeling free to say “No” without questioning yourself or feeling bad can change your health, increase your vitality and empower your choices to come from a place of truth. This will open new doors and new insights within and it will help all of your relationships to become stronger and healthier.
Next time you say “Yes” to someone make sure you are not saying “No” to yourself.