Updated: Dec 2, 2020
As children, we have experiences that can define the rest of our lives. An event that may seem insignificant to an adult can be very traumatic for a child. We may have forgotten the memory as adults but the belief created from that experience can become apart of us in a way that shows up in our daily lives, our relationships, work and personal life. Belief systems like “I am not good enough” or “I am unlovable” are very common that children grow to believe about themselves. These limiting core belief systems are almost always carried through into adulthood.
We also create coping mechanisms to “deal” with our belief systems about ourselves. ADHD is just one example of a survival mechanism that a child develops to cope with his or her environment and beliefs. Tuning out is a genius coping strategy created by the unconscious mind to get by with the feelings, thoughts and events that a child ultimately can’t handle. Coping mechanisms are absolutely brilliant because they are what helped us survive. Life would be too hard without them at a young age. However, as adults we do not need to depend on these coping strategies anymore because although they served us as children, they end up creating blocks in adulthood.
With Compassionate Inquiry I am able to guide a person to help them identify their core belief systems created from childhood trauma. Once this new awareness comes to light we are able to pin point coping mechanisms that have been developed and carried forward into adulthood. With the right tools and awareness we can work together to bring compassion to these coping mechanisms and integrate new strategies to understand triggers and how to move forward in a healthy way. With time, one is able to see themselves in a new light, a new perspective and navigate their inner world with clarity and compassion and ultimately learn a new way of ‘being’.